SUMMARY:
It’s tempting to think that something like “charisma” is innate, something you are born with (or not). However, in this episode, CEO and author, Vanessa Van Edwards shows how we can purposefully dial up our own charisma to increase our effectiveness as leaders. In this conversation with GLN CEO and President, Tom De Vries, Vanessa previews her new book, Cues: Small Signals, Incredible Impact and shows us how aligning our non-verbal cues can tangibly and practically increase our personal leadership charisma.
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
IT’S NOT JUST WHAT YOU SAY. “Cues” involve our body, our face, and our voice. They are powerful social signals that affect what we are trying to communicate.
LEVERAGE CUES FOR LEADERSHIP CHARISMA. “Charisma” is the quality that allow leaders to attract followers. Learning to purposefully use cues can help us tangibly increase our charisma.
CHARISMA HAS A FORMULA. Charisma for leaders is a mixture of warmth and competence—those qualities have associated cues that we can learn.
FIND YOUR FLAVOR OF CHARISMA. Leadership charisma is not a matter of being an extrovert (or introvert). It’s about the blend of warmth and competence. Everyone has their own “sweet spot”, or unique blend.
SOMETIMES INFECTIONS CAN BE GOOD. By learning to effectively and purposefully use non-verbal cues, we can use them like a thermostat to increase our warmth and/or competency. The result is that we can “infect” our teams with positive qualities (productivity, warmth, creativity, etc.).
LEARNING TO USE CUES IS NOT A “NICE TO HAVE”; IT’S A “NEED TO HAVE.” The non-verbal messages we send to others—either knowingly or unknowingly—trigger tangible reactions in them, which in turn can affect us. It’s a cycle. By learning to use them, we can trigger things like warmth, competence, and productivity in others.
THINK TWICE ABOUT THAT EMOJI. Devices like emojis and exclamation points send messages of warmth; be aware of how much you use (or resist using them). They affect peoples’ perception of how competent or warm you may be.
TAKE A BREATH BEFORE YOU SPEAK. The pitch of our voice affects our desire to be seen as competent. If it’s too high, we may come across as unsure or uncertain. Before you speak, take a breath—begin speaking on the exhale, using the lower register of your voice.
AUTHENTIC LEADERS MATCH CUES. Strive for congruence: matching your non-verbal cues to your verbal message. If you try to “fake it,” your non-verbal cues will “leak.”
RELATED LINKS:
Global Leadership Network
The Global Leadership Summit
Science of People
“Charisma Diagnostic” from Science of People
Vanessa Van Edwards YouTube Channel
Cues: Small Signals, Incredible Impact (Amazon, affiliate link)
The Science of Leadership: Impacting for Good (Vanessa’s 2020 GLS Talk; Paywall)
Erin Meyer – Communication: High-Context versus Low-Context
Tom De Vries
President | Global Leadership NetworkAshlyn Ochoa
Host | The Global Leadership PodcastVanessa Van Edwards
Lead Behavioral Investigator | Science of PeopleEp 98: How to Cultivate Leadership Charisma—Vanessa Van Edwards & Tom De Vries
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Leading OrganizationsRelational IntelligenceIt’s tempting to think that something like “charisma” is innate, something you are born with (or not). However, in this episode, CEO and author, Vanessa Van Edwards shows how we can purposefully dial up our own charisma to increase our effectiveness as leaders. In this conversation with GLN CEO and President, Tom De Vries, Vanessa previews her new book Cues: Small Signals, Incredible Impact and shows us how aligning our non-verbal cues can tangibly and practically increase our personal leadership charisma.
On This Podcast
Tom De Vries
Global Leadership Network
Tom joined the Global Leadership Network (GLN) in 2017 as President and CEO. He brings a wealth of expertise to the GLN’s year-round leadership development efforts and the leadership of producing The Global Leadership Summit (GLS), the premier leadership event of the year. Prior to joining the GLN, Tom was the General Secretary of the Reformed Church in America (RCA), the oldest continuing Protestant denomination in the United States with over 200,000 members and 100 missionaries serving in 40 countries around the world. Tom has a B.A. in Sociology from Wheaton College, a Master of Divinity from Fuller Seminary, and a Doctor of Ministry in Leadership from Western Seminary. He has provided leadership in both the ministry and nonprofit environments serving as a church planter, large church lead pastor and multisite pastor. He served on the central committee of the World Council of Churches and the governing board of the National Council of Churches. Additionally, Tom served on the Board of Trustees for New Brunswick Theological Seminary and Western Theological Seminary and has also taught as an adjunct professor at Western Theological Seminary. Tom played a key leadership role in the launching of a nonprofit focused on food insufficiency in young children and today Hand2Hand feeds more than 8,000 children each weekend through school-church partnerships. He has been a featured guest on NPR, the Salem Radio Network, Life Today Live, Newsmax TV, Moody Radio, the WOW Factor, and Common Good.
Ashlyn Ochoa
The Global Leadership Podcast
Ashlyn Ochoa has served in a variety of roles at the Global Leadership Network since 2016. The product of her talented work, strategic creativity, and valuable leadership has been experienced in the production of The Global Leadership Podcast, as well as many of the GLN’s leadership events and videos that have been translated and contextualized in more than 123 countries. As a valuable leader with a voice of positive influence, she is the host of The Global Leadership Podcast, one of the most popular leadership podcasts in the world. As of 2022, in addition to hosting the podcast, Ashlyn leads national event strategy and production at Bethany Christian Services, where she works in her passion to serve children and families. Beyond her professional roles, her greatest joy is found in being a wife and mom. Experience her positive energy, inquisitive mind, and wisdom as you tune in to The Global Leadership Podcast!
Vanessa Van Edwards
Science of People
Vanessa Van Edwards is the national best-selling author of Captivate: The Science of Succeeding With People, which has been translated into 16 languages. Over 36 million people have seen her on YouTube and in her viral TED Talk. Her behavior research lab, Science of People, has been featured in Fast Company, Inc., USA Today, Entrepreneur Magazine, and on CNN, CBS, and many more. For over a decade, Vanessa has been leading corporate trainings and workshops to audiences around the world, including SXSW, and MIT, and at companies including Google, Dove, Microsoft, and Comcast. Her latest book is Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication.
Show Notes
SUMMARY:
It’s tempting to think that something like “charisma” is innate, something you are born with (or not). However, in this episode, CEO and author, Vanessa Van Edwards shows how we can purposefully dial up our own charisma to increase our effectiveness as leaders. In this conversation with GLN CEO and President, Tom De Vries, Vanessa previews her new book, Cues: Small Signals, Incredible Impact and shows us how aligning our non-verbal cues can tangibly and practically increase our personal leadership charisma.
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
IT’S NOT JUST WHAT YOU SAY. “Cues” involve our body, our face, and our voice. They are powerful social signals that affect what we are trying to communicate.
LEVERAGE CUES FOR LEADERSHIP CHARISMA. “Charisma” is the quality that allow leaders to attract followers. Learning to purposefully use cues can help us tangibly increase our charisma.
CHARISMA HAS A FORMULA. Charisma for leaders is a mixture of warmth and competence—those qualities have associated cues that we can learn.
FIND YOUR FLAVOR OF CHARISMA. Leadership charisma is not a matter of being an extrovert (or introvert). It’s about the blend of warmth and competence. Everyone has their own “sweet spot”, or unique blend.
SOMETIMES INFECTIONS CAN BE GOOD. By learning to effectively and purposefully use non-verbal cues, we can use them like a thermostat to increase our warmth and/or competency. The result is that we can “infect” our teams with positive qualities (productivity, warmth, creativity, etc.).
LEARNING TO USE CUES IS NOT A “NICE TO HAVE”; IT’S A “NEED TO HAVE.” The non-verbal messages we send to others—either knowingly or unknowingly—trigger tangible reactions in them, which in turn can affect us. It’s a cycle. By learning to use them, we can trigger things like warmth, competence, and productivity in others.
THINK TWICE ABOUT THAT EMOJI. Devices like emojis and exclamation points send messages of warmth; be aware of how much you use (or resist using them). They affect peoples’ perception of how competent or warm you may be.
TAKE A BREATH BEFORE YOU SPEAK. The pitch of our voice affects our desire to be seen as competent. If it’s too high, we may come across as unsure or uncertain. Before you speak, take a breath—begin speaking on the exhale, using the lower register of your voice.
AUTHENTIC LEADERS MATCH CUES. Strive for congruence: matching your non-verbal cues to your verbal message. If you try to “fake it,” your non-verbal cues will “leak.”
RELATED LINKS:
Global Leadership Network
The Global Leadership Summit
Science of People
“Charisma Diagnostic” from Science of People
Vanessa Van Edwards YouTube Channel
Cues: Small Signals, Incredible Impact (Amazon, affiliate link)
The Science of Leadership: Impacting for Good (Vanessa’s 2020 GLS Talk; Paywall)
Erin Meyer – Communication: High-Context versus Low-Context
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